Summer is the great playtime of the year. It’s like recess; a break from the responsibilities. Except when it’s not.
I find myself holding this idea that summer should be FANTASTIC and FUN and SUN. But there’s still laundry and cooking and vacuuming. The bills keep coming and the everyday-ness of life still happens.
How can we enjoy summer for the respite that it is, while still living in the real world?
Awhile back I discovered something that worked really well for me. It’s not a three-step system, but a mindset, a filter for your summer.
I’m watching calendar days fly by, and I’m filled with equal parts excitement and dread. The shifting from school year to routines and bedtimes to the long days of summer that feel anything but lazy feels tricky. And then the reality that it all switches back soon leaves me dizzy.
I was inspired a few years ago when I watched a webinar by Lysa Terkeurst. It was around the time she launched her book The Best Yes (which I highly recommend.) Everything she said made sense and I found myself nodding along, but one thing stuck with me well beyond the webinar.
Choose a Word
When faced with the season ahead, she prayed and asked God to show her one word that would become her litmus test for all other things that season. I don’t remember what her word was, but I remember that it felt easy. It wasn’t one more thing on my endless lists. No, this idea brought freedom.
I couldn’t narrow it down to one word, so I came up with three: family, books, and relax.
These were the very things my family needed most that summer. Every time we had an opportunity to do something, an invitation, a request, a plea, I ran my litmus test:
Does it support family, books and relaxing?
If the answer was yes, we ran to it. If the answer was no, it gave me permission to say it wasn’t right for us right now. I let go, and it felt great.
Your words will be different. My words this year are different (although I’m thinking that family one is sticking around!) And the ones that started my summer are shifting. We have permission to change.
Here are a few ideas to get us thinking:
- family
- peace
- joy
- fun
- adventure
- helpful
- quiet
- busy
- relaxed
- home
- water
- outdoors
These are just a few ideas! Your summer can have whatever look you want it to. Choosing a word (or a few) that are the goals you have for this season will enable you to make choices that give you the summer you want.
We get to choose how the rest of our summer goes. Share on XYes, there are things we still need to do. The laundry needs to get done (although maybe less if you spend long days in bathing suits). We still need to feed our people (but maybe relaxed means simple meals outside or more takeout). Work needs to happen, and the lawn still needs to be mowed. But when we make our choices through the lens we want to look through, it will be a lot more enjoyable.
This test is not one more thing to do. It is the very thing that will free you to let go so you can create your best summer ever!
What words will you use to create your best summer ever?
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I love this! Even summer can be a bit more purposeful … and not in a dull, ponderous way.
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Yes!!!
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Great thoughts for winnowing, Rebecca! I struggle with summer because we add, add, add to the doing, and nothing ever gets subtracted to make room for it. Thanks for this fun filtering post!
Thanks friend! I’ve learned when I keep adding, I always feel like I’m losing.
Pinned! Love that Summer is not completely over yet. All this “back to school” stuff and adds and Hobby Lobby already has their Christmas stuff out. Makes me want to cry. I LOVE SUMMER!!! We vaca after school is back in session so I do have that to look forward to still.
Pinned!
Thanks for linking up at InstaEncouragements!
That’s an awesome thing to look forward to! And I can hardly believe how stores get ready so early!
It’s easy for summer to become overwhelming! This is a great idea for getting some focus and setting priorities!
It helps me so much!
My summer has definitely gone differently than I pictured, This is a great reminder to focus on a bigger picture.
Praying God gives you hope for new things with the rest of your summer!
This blog post has really got me back into the summery mood, especially in a dreary Manchester UK. #TheHappyNow
So glad it brought some hope to the dreary weather!
I’ve had a rough year and, consequently, a bad attitude about summer. This has given me a new perspective. My word is “recovery”, so I will focus on the progress. Thank you for this post?
I love your word choice!
I love this! Although I didn’t intentionally choose these words, this is what I focused on for our family this summer: family time, sabbath/rest, and fun. And you’re right- it made everything easier and I felt more free indeed.
Yes! It makes such a difference. And I love your focus!
I like the idea of choosing words! I’ll have to think more about this for the rest of my summer goals.
It’s really helpful. And I should go back and re-read The Best Yes; it’s so good!
Hey Rebecca, I love your idea here and your three words. I would choose family, joy, and relaxed.
Great words! They provide a good filter to know if something is right for you right now.
The Best Yes is high on my TBR list. I think after reading your recommendation, I will just go ahead and order it today. What a wonderful way to set your priorities. I like your “3 words” approach.
I found it really helpful (and easy to read!) It was freeing!
Now that my kids are grown, there’s not much difference as far as our activity level except I don’t have to plan errands around the busy times of school zones, and some venues are more crowded. But I would have loved this idea when they were younger. I liked have some purpose to our summers, but needed much flexibility and relaxation, too.
Yes! We need that balance between purpose and flexibility and relaxation!